It happens to me at least once a week. I get a call from a father whose son is between the ages of eight and eleven. The young tyke is playing defensive back in little league, and dad wants to get him some training to improve his performance. This is 100% logical and noble, but it’s also the wrong thing to do.
I’ve definitely been there. When your children are this age, you want to do everything to help them succeed and feel good. At this stage of their life, they are really dependent on you to show them the way. Your efforts to get them with a trainer serve two purposes: first, to give them an edge so that they can feel happy at the end of the game; and second, to teach them how to get an edge in life.
The missing part in all of this—something many parents hesitate to admit—is that when the game is over, you want to feel good about your son’s performance too. After all, what he does is a reflection of you. You want to feel proud like some of the other dads whose sons ripped up the Pee Wee football field. I’m telling you from experience: don’t get caught up in that.
We’d all love for our young children to become prodigies in whatever they pursue. It’s great to get a head start in life and be out in front of the pack. A small percentage of kids are just born with it, while others have to do the work. If your son is born with it, you’ll know it. Some parents, though, get fooled. Their sons may show dominance early because of physical advantages or because they’ve had lessons in the offseason. For that latter group, Saturdays are fun—but in reality, they are robbing their sons of their future.
In the early stages of your son’s football career, what’s most important is having fun, becoming a student of the game, and—most importantly—developing into a great athlete.
When the offseason comes, he doesn’t need to see me or any other DB trainer. What he needs is to play other sports and focus on becoming a strong student. Developing into a great athlete comes from participating in different activities that build a wide range of skills.
If he runs track, he’ll develop the physical skill of efficient running and the mental skill of personal accountability. If he wrestles, he’ll learn the physical skills of leverage and balance, as well as the mental skill of endurance. If he plays baseball, he’ll develop hand-eye coordination and the mental skill of patience. Each sport develops a critical physical and mental skill that will give him “superpowers” when he enters puberty.
Sure, if he sees a DB trainer in the offseason, he’ll develop a good backpedal, be able to flip his hips, and play solid press man coverage—as a nine-year-old. But while he’s doing that, he’s missing out on the benefits of track, wrestling, basketball, baseball, soccer, swimming, and more. When he and his peers hit puberty and they’re all learning how to backpedal, flip their hips, and play press man, he’ll be ahead… at first. But eventually, his peers will catch up on technique—and they’ll also have the added advantage of all the physical and mental tools they gained from playing other sports.
When the kids he once dominated in Little League blow past him because they’re more athletic, it can have a profound effect on him mentally. All the advantages gained at age ten will have evaporated. And I haven’t even started on the kids who played defensive back at age ten but grew into defensive ends by age fourteen. How much time did they waste with that DB trainer?
So, to the parents of the ten-year-old: if you really want to help your son and prepare him for the future, put him in other sports when the offseason comes. Later in life, he’ll thank you for the break from football. Encourage him to develop a love for the strategy and schemes of the game. Trust me—that goes a long way in his football career. And make sure he becomes a quality student. While it might seem like education is less of a priority in today’s sports world, nothing will happen in his post–high school career if he can’t handle being a student. Finally, remember: he still needs time to be a kid. He can find that balance now—or he can act like a child later in life because he was never allowed to be one when he was young.
Of course, you can ignore all this and chase the high of being the proud parent of a ten-year-old who snagged an interception against a quarterback barely big enough for his pads—one who most likely will never see a college football field. If that’s what you’re after, there are plenty of trainers willing to take your money. Experience has taught me not to be one of them.
If you want to help your son improve his knowledge of playing defensive back, check out two great resources I have for you. One is my top-selling book 101 DB Tips, packed with information on how to play the position. I also have the All Eyes DB Camp Members Area, where he can learn about coverages, technique, strategy, and more. [Click here to join]